Writing and speaking tips

This week I contacted several professional writers and speakers to get tips for success. They were very generous and helpful. They were so encouraging, but also were very honest about the challenges, especially for those just starting out in this field. Here is a sprinkling of their tips:

For writing:

  • It’s a calling from God. It’s your passion.
  • Have a point. You’d be surprised how many people don’t have one. Your writing must be relevant to today’s needs, and useful. Most people want to know, “What’s in this for me?”
  • Write. It seems obvious, but writers often avoid writing by decorating their writing room, organizing drawers, reading writing books, etc. You’re a writer, so write. Not just postcards from London or letters to your sister. Email, Twittering, and Facebook interviews don’t count as serious writing.
  • Write more. Re-write. Don’t be so in love with your own words that you can’t bare to part with any of them. Be your most relentless editor and critic.
  • Read, read, read. Writers learn to write well by studying other writers’ great works and by writing.
  • Buy the 2009 Writer’s Market, an invaluable resource for helping you to find out where and who to send your queries and proposals to when you are ready. It includes over 3,500 listings for book publishers, magazines, journals, and literary agents. It also has samples of queries, great articles from successful writers and editors that are very practical. and helpful writers’ organizations and websites.
  • Learn how to write an excellent query letter.
  • Rejections are part of this business. If you can’t handle them, do something else.
  • Rejection letters are not a personal attack against you. Editors have piles of articles and manuscripts on their desk. They may reject your submission for a number of reasons: there was no query, they don’t accept unsolicited submissions or they only use agents, it doesn’t fit their publishing needs, they are publishing something very similar, your writing needs work – or worse, it stinks. Most editors send standard rejection letters.
  • If you do not know the proper format for an article or book manuscript, it will probably be rejected.
  • Go to writers’ conferences and workshops, such as Mt. Hermon’s Christian writer’s conference. http://mounthermon.org/about.
  • Join a writer’s group to critique each other.
  • Buy Sally E. Stuart’s Christian Writers’ Market Guide 2009, a great tool for the Christian writer, very similar to the Writer’s Market.
  • Go to CLASS training. http://www.classervices.com/
  • Build a speaking platform. Writing and speaking go together like a hand and a glove.
  • When you send a query and/or article or manuscript to an editor, do not call him or her to chat about your work. He will put your precious baby in the slush pile. Wait at least 6 to 8 weeks before contacting an editor or publisher after submission.
  • Be professional, not a spoiled, overly-sensitive brat. Editors want to publish good writing. They don’t have a personal agenda against you. Listen to their wisdom, which comes from a lot of experience. Many editors are writers, too.
  • Writing now requires other qualifications; for example, knowing how to market your own work, speaking, technology skills, etc.
  • Build a speaking platform.
  • Network. You never know who might be able to help you get your foot in the door.
  • You will have to get over a fear of promoting yourself. It is essential today.
  • Learn from the professionals. Be teachable. Glean all you can from those who have the success that you desire. Emulate their ways of success, but have your unique flavor, too.
  • Develop a mission statement. Who is your target audience and how do you want to help them specifically?
  • Get a website and a blog. Do all with excellence. If you have the money, hire a professional to design them. Use your website, blog, Facebook, Twitter for advertising your product.
  • Create or hire someone professional to make professional business cards, promotional brochures or flyers, etc.
  • Initially, you may not make any or a lot of money at this. Very few people make it “big.” But do submit your work to magazines, journals, online ezines, etc. Get published wherever you can, to build writing credibility. Writers who have had articles published are taken more seriously by editors when it comes to publishing a book.
  • When you get published, sell, market, advertise your product everywhere. Get the word out there. Your publisher will help you, but many books are sold outside the bookstore!
  • Have a few close friends who are your prayer covering. You will have warfare.
  • Be yourself. Find your voice. Be real and genuine. No one likes someone who is fake. Stop trying to be Miss Perfect. God will use your pain and heartache to minister to others.
  • You are God’s scribe. Listen for His voice, and then share His message of good news with others to glorify Him and to encourage others.
  • Don’t stop writing. If you don’t absolutely love writing, get out while you can. Keep writing! You will see your dreams come true if you don’t quit!

For speakers:

  • It’s a calling.
  • Have a point! Some people don’t. Have something important, valuable, and useful to say. Most people don’t want to know about the Austrian who has the world record for building coffins, or about your uncle’s gall stone surgery that he miraculously came through with no problems. We’re glad your uncle is okay, but unless there’s a gem of wisdom in the story that will help us today, we don’t need to hear about it.
  • Join a Toastmasters Club. It will sharpen your speaking skills, and you will meet wonderful people from all walks of life who have a passion for speaking. Toastmasters International has clubs all over the U.S. and the world. You can find a local club in your area. The Toastmaster’s web site is a wealth of information for speakers, with free resources. http://www.toastmasters.org/
  • Build a writing platform.
  • Attend professional speakers training, such as CLASS. http://www.classervices.com/
  • Don’t point out your problems: “I’m really no good at public speaking,” or “With my scratchy, horrible voice, I’ll try to read this.” (courtesy of CLASS)
  • Record and video yourself speaking. Work on not saying “um,” “you know,” or “ok?” Pay attention to any irritating mannerisms while speaking, such as scratching yourself, playing with your hair, touching your face, putting your hands in your pocket, having dull facial expressions or speaking in a monotone, reading your speech, etc.
  • Take voice lessons if you need them. People like confident, passionate speakers. Don’t whine, speak too low, race through your speech like you’re being timed, or mumble. Please, do not chew gum.
  • Your message is the most important thing, but appearance does matter. No one wants to look at a frumpy speaker in outdated clothes, with unkempt hair, no makeup and fuzzy, caterpillar eyebrows. Be a professional.
  • Network with speakers and other professionals.
  • Get over any fear of promoting yourself. It is necessary today.
  • Create or hire someone to make professional business cards, promotional brochures and flyers, etc.
  • Get a website and a blog. Hire a professional to design them, if possible.
  • Get a logo and a brand. Have a mission statement. What makes you unique from the thousands of other Christian speakers out there?
  • Always record. You never know when you are going to give a speech that is phenomenal and you want a recording of that one. Learn from your bad days. Make cd’s and other products of your best speeches, and sell and market them. There are professional duplication companies who can help you with this, who can remove background noise, hisses, etc., and can help you produce and market your product.
  • Professional speakers charge. Initially you may have to speak for free, then only earn about $100 for one day of speaking. As your skills sharpen and you become more in demand, you can charge more. The “A” list well known speakers, such as Florence Littaeur and Liza Curtis Higgs, start at $2500 and up. The “B” list, who have some name recognition and are typically published with a house, receive $800 to $3,000 with all expenses paid. The “C” list, or beginners without much name recognition, charge $25 to $800. (courtesy of Marita Littauer, CLASS)
  • You may not make any money or much at all when first starting out. Many “big” speakers today are struggling right now due to the economy and changing trends; women are not coming to events as much now. You may have to do this as a side business. Seek the Lord on what to do.
  • Take advantage of social media to share your messages, such as podcasting and Blog Talk Radio. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/
  • Many pastors do not want “outsiders” coming into their churches, and possibly “tainting”, “influencing,” or “stealing their sheep.” Male pastors can be weird about women speakers, so expect some resistance as you are stepping out in faith to do this. God will open doors of favor for you, as you seek Him.
  • Be real and transparent. Nobody likes fakeness. Stop trying to be perfect. Your pain and struggles may be the very thing to minister to someone else.
  • Remember you are a messenger of hope and encouragement to others. Use your gift of communication to glorify God and to bless others.
  • Don’t let the enemy silence you. God wants to use you to share His words of truth and life with others. You will achieve your goals of success if you do not give up!

For all of you who shared some of these things with me this week, a big thank you from my heart. You really blessed and encouraged me!

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Brokenness ~ the key to impacting the next generation

“In my weakness I run to Jesus Christ…and He will change me.” ~ Mary DeMuth, Christian author/international speaker

This morning I was so blessed to listen to an interview of Christian author/international speaker Mary DeMuth with pastor Wes Hamilton at Lakepoint church. http://www.marydemuth.com/speaking.php.

Mary grew up in a home where drug abuse flourished, and at five years old she was sexually abused by neighborhood bullies. She lost her father at the age of ten, and as a teenager she considered suicide. But at Young Life youth camp, she heard the gospel and dedicated her life to Jesus Christ, and God now is using her in a powerful way as an author and speaker, wife, and mother. She is living proof of how generational sin and dsyfunction can be stopped by the transforming power and the blood of Jesus.

One of the things Mary said during the interview above with pastor Hamilton which struck me was that God spoke to her heart, “I want you to live broken.” We need to be broken in our roles as wives, moms, daughters, sisters, friends, writers, speakers ~ just every area of our lives. Through our weakness and our brokenness, we rely completely on God and learn to trust in Him alone.

The woman with the alabaster jar had this brokenness. When she heard that Jesus was going to be at the Pharisee’s house, she came and anointed Jesus’ feet with her tears and her hair. She worshipped Him, because of all He had done for her. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Beth-Jones.

In the interview with Mary, Pastor Hamilton said that as spouses and parents, we often ask ourselves, “Who am I?” Who are we to deserve this blessing? For children are a gift from God. (Psalm 127: 3) Yet sometimes we do not even know what we are doing!

Moses asked this question, too: “Who am I?” Yet God promises that He will be with us, just as His presence was with Moses. Not just in the great, epic-sized events of our lives, such as going to the nations to be a missionary. But His presence will be with us in the living room talking with our kids. Or in the bedroom with our husbands. His presence goes with us, day by day, even in the little, daily, routine things of life.

Many of us, like Mary, don’t want to duplicate the homes we grew up in: sexual, physical or verbal abuse; alcoholism; drug abuse; yelling, fighting, continual strife; emotional distance; spiritual apathy or atheism; materialism, and so on. We want our lives to be different now, easier, happier ~ godly, Christian homes where Christ reigns.

We don’t want to be our mother. We don’t want to be like our father, either, but like our Father in Heaven with His heart of love. It is only by the power of the Holy Spirit living inside of us that we can be healed and changed from the deep wounds of the past, and can demonstrate an active, living, real faith to our children, being examples to them of Christ.

It is only through our crying out to Jesus that we can be set free from the past, our chains broken. It is only the love of God that can penetrate hard, bitter, devastated hearts that can be touched and filled to overflowing with His love, truth, goodness, kindness, forgiveness, and mercy.

God wants us free. He wants us broken before Him, admitting honestly that we cannot do anything ourselves without Him. “Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” (John 15: 4-5)

Through Christ we can make a difference, an eternal mark. We can have a happy, healthy, godly home where there’s love, laughter, peace, and safety. As our children see our passion for Christ, they will hunger and thirst for Him, too. Jesus can change our lives, and then impact the generations to come for the Kingdom of God. It starts with us ~ broken before Him.

Use what’s in your hands: Two Fish and Five Loaves

God can use your “two fish and five loaves of bread” gifts in incredible ways.

My passion is seeing women becoming all that God desires them to be, using their spiritual gifts, talents, and skills for His glory ~ fulfilling their destiny in Christ. My personal gifts are speaking and writing, and I am dedicating this year to focusing on those two areas. I have big dreams in my heart because I serve a big God, but every successful dream starts with one tiny step of faith ~ and lots of hard work!

As Christians, we have gifts inside of us that God wants to use to further His kingdom here on earth. Our spiritual gifts are the weapons of our warfare to defeat the enemy and to win the lost to Christ (The Gifts and Ministries of the Holy Spirit, Lester Sumrall, p. 150).

Maybe you feel like you only have a “small” gift, an insignificant one. There are no unimportant gifts and no important people. God wants to use everyone on earth for His glory – men, women, and children! Remember that the boy with the five loaves of bread and two fish was used mightily by God to feed over five thousand (John 6: 1-14). Use whatever you have in your hands ~ just see what God does as you are willing to step out in faith and give to others!

You have to open up your heart, and open up your hands…no holding back!

I feel that I am stepping out in writing and speaking with just “five loaves of bread and two fish” ~ but I believe that as I give what I have in my hands, that the Lord will multiply it and use it for His glory. I want to encourage others, too – wives, mothers, writers, speakers, bloggers, podcasters, entrepreneurs and other business professionals – to use their spiritual gifts, talents, and skills, letting none be wasted.

For you have an eternal mark to leave on this world. Remember Carly Simon’s song, Nobody does it better? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO8FZJ_UIn4. Well, there is just one you – no one can do it quite like you!

Everyone has a set of fingerprints that sets them apart from everyone else. God has a unique blueprint for all our lives, a special purpose and destiny that He has determined for us to do, since the beginning of time. He has deposited specific gifts inside of each of us, that He desires to bless others with for His kingdom’s sake. We just need to find out what those gifts are, and use them faithfully, being good stewards of all He has given us.

Use what you have in your hands. You may start out with something that you feel is small, but God wants to enlarge your territory and increase your sphere of influence. He wants to use you to minister to and encourage others with His anointing that resides inside of you, His Spirit that teaches us all things (1 John 2: 20). God can take your “two fish and five loaves,” and do amazing things with it!

This month I have had two articles published on Ezine articles, The Power of Perseverance, and Discovering and Using Your Gifts for God. http://ezinearticles.com/?expert_bio=Beth_D._Jones.

I also wrote an article, Faith in Fearful Times, which you can purchase for just $2.00 on my website. These articles will exhort you to use your unique, spiritual gifts for God, and to encourage you in your faith walk with Jesus in these turbulent times. I would love to hear your feedback on any of these articles – comments, questions, sharing about your gifts and how God uses you, too. Feel free to email me, to comment below or on the Ezine articles site. I’d love to hear back from you!

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A place of safety

There are many things I could blog about tonight: the hate-crimes bill, Obama overturning Bush’s restriction on embryonic stem cell research, or the swine flu. As believers in Christ, these serious issues deserve our close attention and much prayer. And I am praying a lot about them.

But what I am hearing tonight is this: keep your eyes on Jesus, not on the winds and the waves of uncertainty. “Be still and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46:10)

There’s a lot of scary stuff going on right now, but we don’t need to be ruled by fear. Jesus said in John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you, not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, nor let it be afraid.”

Just as a baby who is crying is hushed in his parents’ protective arms, so God is holding us His children in His loving, strong hands. God is still on the throne. He is not up in heaven having a panic attack or freaking out over these things. He’s got it all under control, and we need to just trust Him.

Be still. Be at peace. For God your Father loves you and is your safe place, your refuge, your strong tower in times of trouble.

Here is the music group Delirious’ video of “Majesty” (Here I am) on You Tube. The Lord reigns in majesty.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNjH8QDpBFY