Finding what is lost

Our daughter Heather asked me to pick up their daughters Annabelle and Violet at her work at 5 p.m. today, because she didn’t get off until 5:30 p.m. and Annabelle had to be at a basketball game at her school by 5:45 p.m.

Heather also loaned me her house keys, so I could stop by their house and get Annabelle and Violet a snack before they went to the game, so they wouldn’t be hungry during the game.

But somewhere between Heather giving me the keys and me helping the girls get their seatbelts on in the car, I lost the keys. I looked in the parking lot, my coat pockets, my purse; the girls helped me to diligently search the car’s backseat. They were nowhere to be found and now Annabelle was going to be late to the game.

I called Heather to tell her the news and asked her to see if someone had found them inside the school and had dropped them off at the front desk with the receptionist. Soon Heather came out in her blue teacher’s smock, nearly running on the sidewalk, and got into her car.

Her own special parking place: Heather was employee of the month!

I pulled out of the parking place and up close to her “Employee of the Month” parking place (go, Heather!), calling her on my cell to see if they’d found the keys. Heather didn’t know that was me behind her car, and was saying, “Come ON!” into her phone, looking into the rear-view mirror. I then said, “Hello?” and she realized it was me, waiting for her to pull out and go.

“Did someone turn in the keys? Do you have them?” I asked. “YES!” she said, and raced off in her red Kia car. Heather ALWAYS races off. Since she got her license at 16, she’s had a lead foot. It is a miracle she has never had a speeding ticket. She also races when she walks anywhere. I have to practically run whenever I go shopping with her.

As Heather left tracks, Violet’s sweet voice then piped up from the backseat: “Wait, Nana! My seatbelt isn’t on!” In the excitement of the girls doing a treasure hunt for the keys in my car, Violet had not buckled her seatbelt again after we couldn’t find the keys. So I had to make sure she was strapped in first, and then tried to catch up with Heather.

The excitement was just beginning…

The next thing I thought I lost was my cell phone when we went to A & W restaurant after the game.  I seem to lose things a lot, especially just when I need them: my keys, my phone, my debit card. Invariably I find whatever it is a few minutes later, usually in my purse, pocket or somewhere that it’s supposed to be. My family is used to the fact that every few weeks I start nearly panicking, thinking that I have lost something again and they have to help me look for it. It’s not forgetfulness; it’s disorganization.

Violet and Belle at A & W

Nobody can find ANYTHING in my purse, no matter how big of a purse I buy: there’s my wallet, coupons, receipts, Sharpie pens, keys, shiny lip gloss, black or brown eyeliner (eyeliner is one of my STAPLES!), lotion, loose change that spilled out of my unzipped zebra-striped change purse, extra contacts in the event of an earthquake or tornado, compact green mirror (gift from my friend Shelley Valasek), address book, Free Massage gift certificate from my sister Maria which I need to book with my masseuse, etc.

I am organized to a fault when it comes to my to-do lists, organizing cabinets and drawers, obsessively lining up my shoes in a row, but my purse and our car are a different story. Maybe my purse and our car are my one area of rebellion against organization. My one “messy” space where chaos is free to reign at will. Usually whatever I have lost is buried under the contents of it.

Often as I’m madly searching for the lost item, especially when I’m short on time, I hear the Holy Spirit’s gentle, calm whisper, “It’s in your purse,” because God knows I’m on the verge of what Rhett Butler called Scarlett O’Hara’s “crying jag.”

My crying jags are NOT a pretty sight. And my debit card or phone or whatever I’ve lost is right there, just as God said.

I finally found my phone at the A & W; it was in my purse.

Does God really do these things – help people find lost items?

You betcha. God is so good at finding the lost.

If you feel lost, uncertain, confused, or hurt, God will find you. He’s looking for you – to show you how much He loves you.

“If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them gets lost, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others in the wilderness and go to search for the one that is lost until he finds it? And when he has found it, he will joyfully carry it home on his shoulders. When he arrives, he will call together his friends and neighbors, saying, ‘Rejoice with me because I have found my lost sheep.’ In the same way, there is more joy in heaven over one lost sinner who repents and returns to God than over ninety-nine others who are righteous and haven’t strayed away!

“Or suppose a woman has ten silver coins[a] and loses one. Won’t she light a lamp and sweep the entire house and search carefully until she finds it? And when she finds it, she will call in her friends and neighbors and say, ‘Rejoice with me because I have found my lost coin.’ In the same way, there is joy in the presence of God’s angels when even one sinner repents.” (Luke 15: 4-24, NLT)

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When you or a loved one is going through a hard time

Someone I love very much is going through something extremely painful right now. It’s so hard to watch, and my heart is breaking for this loved one. Sometimes we don’t understand what on earth God is doing in our lives or in the lives of our family and our friends. We want to know “Why?”

It’s okay to ask God why and other questions. It’s okay to vent our emotions to God. He can handle it. He wants you to be real and transparent with Him. He wants you to come to Him with your troubles and your cares. God wants to help you.

King David was said to be a man after God’s own heart. David was a man of war and he was King. He had many enemies who wanted to kill him. Because of the anointing and the measure of the great calling on his life, the enemy wanted to take him out and if he couldn’t do that, then he wanted to discourage him and hinder him from his purpose. But David understood that God’s power was greater than man’s or Satan’s. David understood God’s unconditional love and forgiveness. He knew he could be real with his feelings of fear, depression, and discouragement with God. David knew that God was the only place he could go with his problems.

If you or a loved one are going through a hard time right now, you’ll find your answers – and your comfort and encouragement – in God.

“The Lord will also be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. And those who know Your name will put their trust in You. For You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.” Psalm 9:9-10

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Is this one thing holding you back?

Guest Post by Jennifer Bennett

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” – Proverbs 23:7

This past weekend, I had some “interesting” things take place that I just need to share with you!

First off, on Friday I was chatting on the phone with my good friend. As we were talking away, she mentioned to me that she had no idea that I was now teaching a college class one night a week. As I told her about the class, she said to me, “Gee whiz, just another thing about you to intimidate me.”

Now, before you think I’m saying this to impress each of you, hear me out, because the reality is, that’s the last thing I’m trying to do.

The other interesting thing happened on Saturday as my family and I headed out to Barnes and Noble. As I was in the store, I overheard this woman griping and complaining to one of the store workers about how this particular Barnes and Noble was the worst one she has ever been too. She continued going on by stating that the store had horrible customer service, they never carried any books she needed or wanted and that once again, it was the worst store ever. As she went on and on, the employee just listened while keeping her cool.

Trying to impress

And then it happened. As this women was continuing on, she said some specific words that quite frankly, got me a little upset. She first stated that she has traveled the world and in all her travels she has never been to such a horrible store as this one. And then she decided to throw in that she had a Ph.D and really, I think this is what did it to me and got me a little upset. At this point, I walked over and told the employee that I too was getting my Ph.D and that quite frankly, I thought she was doing a great job. Needless to say, the complaining woman just walked away while the worker was relieved that someone would stick up for her.

As I chatted to the employee, I mentioned that I couldn’t believe that this women would throw in there that she had a Ph.D; it was as if having a Ph.D made her better or “more special” than anyone else. And really, this is what blew me away.

By now you may be wondering what these two stories have to do with each other. Well, as I thought back to my conversation with my friend and then this incident that I witnessed, I couldn’t help but to wonder how many women today feel as though they are “less worthy” because they don’t have some extra letters behind their name, or they don’t have a certain “look”, house, car, accessories, family, career, etc.

Life isn’t a contest

Here is the God honest truth…God doesn’t care about that stuff! I truly believe that so many times we hold ourselves back because we feel as though we don’t have the right kind of education, experience, world travels, know how, contacts, etc. And what ends up happening is we never step out and fulfill the calling that has been placed on us. Instead, we spend our time comparing ourselves to these other women who we think have their lives all together (which in reality, many of them don’t).

Today, you need to know that life isn’t a contest. Life isn’t about who can one-up the other. It isn’t about who has the most degrees, the highest paying job, the biggest house, the luxury car, the name brand clothes, etc. The truth is, comparing yourself to others will only bring you hurt and disappointment. And when you find yourself living your life like this, the hard core truth is you will never fully become who you were meant to be.

What God cares about is the heart:

But God told Samuel, “Looks aren’t everything. Don’t be impressed with his looks and stature. I’ve already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and women look at the face; God looks into the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7

The one thing I can tell you is that God has a unique calling on your life. It’s not going to look like anyone else’s. It most likely will not come at the same time it does for those that you know. It will look different, be different, smell different and taste different. Today, I want you to take joy in your unique calling; the unique road that God has you on. God wants to see you become your best, living life knowing that you are being and doing exactly what it is that He had planned for you long ago!

3 Tips for Stepping Into Your Greatness

So today, let me share a three specific tips that will help you step into your greatness, your unique calling that God is wanting to reveal to you! Choose today to stop comparing and instead, see yourself as the gem that you are!

1) Give yourself away: How can you give yourself away to someone this week? How can you give of your time to those who are in need? Who can you bless as you go along completing the tasks that are before you this week? Maybe someone is need of a home cooked meal. Or maybe, someone just needs a night out with their spouse…why not offer to watch their children? Nothing compares to the feeling you get when you allow yourself to reach out to someone. Be diligent about doing this.

2) Encourage someone: Each of us knows what a difference it makes when someone actually takes the time to encourage us! I remember being at church a couple of weeks ago and as I walked in with my family, one of the ladies looked at Luke (my husband) and said, “you have got a hottie for a wife.” Honestly, that made my day! I felt so good about myself. Just a few words and I was on cloud nine. Who can you encourage this week and in turn, put them on cloud nine?

3) Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Do you know what your strengths are? Or do you spend most of your time focusing on those areas that you deem as being negative? Why not choose this week to focus on what your strengths are and what it is that makes you, you? If you are unsure as to what your strengths are here are a couple of suggestions for you:

-Purchase StrengthsFinder 2.0 and take the online assessment. This will be an eye opening experience for you!

-Seek out the thoughts of those that you respect and admire. Ask them to share with you (in person or via email) their responses to these questions:

  • What makes me smile?
  • What do you see my strengths being?
  • What do I do well?
  • What could I get lost in for hours?

Your unique calling

The truth is, you are a unique individual with a unique calling upon your life. Don’t waste your days comparing yourself to others or feeling as though you are “less” of a person because of the things you don’t have. Remember, God looks at the heart. Life is not a contest, but rather a race; you have been given a specific race to run. Focus on who God’s called you to be, your unique life story, and then give it all you’ve got!

I Believe in YOU!

Jen

Jennifer Bennett is not your typical “God Girl.” She not only believes that women were created to be successful, strong and courageous in a world that often asks them to “hang out in the background”, but she is a firm believer in a God that has a special place in His heart for women whom He longs to see impact this world in some BIG ways! As a “Marketer of Hope” expert who currently serves a variety of women, she encourages, inspires, and equips women to live the lives that they were meant for!

You can find out more about Jennifer at www.MySoulMission

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Valentine’s Radio Show on Bahamas trip and Marriage with Susan Evans, Feb. 13

Do you desire a romantic get-away with your husband? Think you can’t afford one or could go without the kids? Well, God can make it happen!

On Monday, February 13 at 1 p.m. Central Time (2 p.m. Eastern Time), my precious friend Susan Evans will be my special guest on my Women’s Battles Radio Show at Talkshoe, sharing just in time for Valentine’s Day about her get-away with her husband to the Bahamas! Susan will talk about how God restored her honeymoon with her husband and about the highlights of their Bahamas trip together. You will love Susan. She is an anointed speaker, authentic, real, bold, passionate for Christ, and hilarious! She and I will be discussing marriage tips at the end for our Q & A time.

Maybe you’ve always wanted to take a trip alone with your honey, but have never had the opportunity. Maybe your marriage is falling apart and you feel you have no hope. Maybe the idea of going away with your husband alone is not your idea of fun! :O  Dear friend, with God nothing is impossible. Pray about your marriage. Don’t STOP praying! Believe. Stand on God’s word. God is in the restoring, healing business.

Susan and I would love to have you join us in the chat room for this exciting Valentine’s show. Just click here. Or you can call into the show with the call-in details below:

Phone Number: (724) 444-7444
Call ID: 117704
PIN: 1 # or Your Talkshoe PIN

I can’t wait to hear about Susan’s trip and we can’t wait to see you there!

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How well are you connected – when you’re not?

Why does Ray always want to talk to me after I’ve started falling asleep? Last night I was just dozing off into a wonderful dream when he said, “The internet is back on.”

Of course, it was good news. I was relieved because I’m having a webinar on Thursday, Feb. 2, with Rochelle Valasek ~ and I need the internet! (Are you signed up yet? It’s going to be so good and fun!)

This weekend our internet company had a statewide outage. We were without internet service for two days. When I told my friends of our dilemma, two of them who are addicted to the internet said:

“I’d go insane!”

“I think I’d die!”

Extreme times call for extreme measures. I was forced yesterday to go to McDonald’s for wi-fi to do my work. (The caramel mocha was not forced.)

While I was there, a nice, elderly couple sat beside me. So nice, in fact, that they tried to talk to me the entire time while I was working. They shared about their daughter who works for Farmer’s Insurance – “but not the insurance part, she does the computer work,” the woman was sure to tell me, twice. They said the daughter traveled 70 miles each day to get to work, but worked two days from home on her computer.

This couple lived six miles out in the country, and were not able to get internet service at all where they lived.

“What do you do?” I asked, aghast.

They live without it. Can you imagine? They call family and friends, invite them over for dinner, or go to see them. You know, the old-fashioned way.

What  a concept.

How well connected are you with family and friends – when you’re not connected (online)?

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The Clay Fully Surrendered to the Potter

Right now I’m sitting in McDonald’s, drinking the last delicious dregs of my Caramel Mocha, the only thing that makes this situation even slightly tolerable. Our internet service has been down at home since Thursday night, as our internet company is having problems with the server. They had a statewide outage and are trying to repair it this weekend.

I have been trying to NOT freak out because I have a webinar with Rochelle Valasek next week on Thursday, February 2, and am praying it is fixed way before then. I believe in faith it will be.  (Are you signed up yet for it? It’s going to be anointed and fun! Click here to save your spot!  Best of all, it is at no cost to you and there will be a replay if you can’t attend the live event!)

Sometimes things happen that are beyond our control:

  • Marriage or other relationship problems;
  • Financial crisis or job loss/layoff;
  • Health issues;
  • Conflicts with a friend, boss, co-worker, or peer;
  • Natural disasters;
  • Car accident;
  • ___________________ (You name your crisis or unexpected event.)

No matter what is going on, we can trust and know that God the Potter has everything in His hands. So often we try to resist the “shaping” God is doing in our lives. When a piece of clay is put on the pottery wheel, it must be completely centered for the Potter to be able to shape it into the vessel He wants. If it is not perfectly centered, it can fall apart on the wheel.

Being “centered” to God our Potter means we are fully surrendered to Him. Right now I want our internet at home fixed. It’s so inconvenient to be here at McDonald’s. But I have to trust that God is using even this to teach me to wait patiently on Him to work on my behalf.

The clay can’t jump off the pottery wheel, having enough of this shaping business. No, it must yield. We must yield to and trust God, knowing that He’s got it all under control!

What area of your life do you need to surrender to God the Potter?

Join Rochelle Valasek and me for our upcoming webinar, Thursday, February 2, at 2:30 p.m. Central Time. Just click here to sign up. We’d love to see you there in the chat room!

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Not everything goes according to plan!

Sometimes things don’t always go according to plan:

  • Your marriage starts falling apart;
  • Your husband’s company is “downsizing” and he gets a phone call that he’s suddenly without a job after 10 years of loyal service and hard work;
  • A family member says he no longer believes in God and is now an atheist;
  • You find out your spouse is having an affair;
  • Your business isn’t doing well, while your best friend’s is taking off like a shooting star;
  • A loved one gets sick or dies;
  • Your car is making weird noises;
  • You’re hit with unexpected financial difficulties;
  • A pet is missing;
  • You gained weight this week instead of losing;
  • Your child needs a major attitude adjustment – constantly;
  • YOU need a major attitude adjustment – constantly;
  • A friend becomes deeply offended with you over something trivial;
  • A disaster like a tornado, hurricane, flood, or earthquake occurs in the middle of the night.

It could be any number of things. What do you do in these situations? Typical responses include stress, worry, anxiety, frustration, anger, discouragement, fear, and disappointment.

The situation might even make you want to give up and quit. Scream. Run away.

One thing we can have confidence in is that nothing takes God by surprise. He’s got it all under control in His capable, strong hands. In fact, the Potter may be using these hard tests and trials in your life to mold you and shape you into a vessel fit for His glory. The Bible says that iron sharpens iron. God may be polishing your rough edges to make you into a vessel for honor.

It’s a Divine set-up. God is preparing you for greatness. If you will endure faithfully these hard circumstances, something incredible is just around the corner for you!

To learn more about being in the Potter’s Hands, join me and my friend Rochelle Valasek at our upcoming webinar on Thursday, February 2, at 2:30 p.m. Central Time (3:30 p.m. Eastern Time).  There is no cost to attend, you will receive the replay just for signing up, and you’ll have a chance to win one of the great door prizes! You will learn new things, make new friends in the chat room, and have fun!

Just click here, scroll to the bottom of the page, and click on the link to save your spot. See you at the webinar soon!

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Google Plus You?

Tonight I received my friend’s invite to another social networking site. You join this one by invitation only, like a wedding invite. (I’ve gotten numerous invites from people over the past year about this particular site.)

Google Plus. Pinterest. Live Journal. More social networking sites are being created, when I am still trying to juggle Facebook, Twitter, and Linkedin. What’s a girl to do?

I could scream and rebel. Or like the proverbial ostrich with its head stuck in the social sand, I could ignore these networking sites.

I don’t have time for this, I think, overwhelmed at the thought of one more thing to do each day. Instead, I ask three important questions:

  • What does God want me to do? Get HIS word on the matter first.
  • What works best for me and my business?
  • Are there more people out there who need the message God has given me?

What works best for your business? (Not using social media is not an option any more!)

Like the latest fashions, I don’t run out immediately to get it. After all, I’d look pretty ridiculous in one of these Monsoon Fusion Spring Collection get-ups, just like MySpace isn’t me, either. It’s not my space. It doesn’t fit; it’s not where I would thrive and meet my market, tribe, flock, whatever you want to call those who I resonate with online. (I call them friends.)  :)

That doesn’t mean I don’t need to experiment and try new things. In fact, tonight I was looking again at Google Plus and Pinterest. I may join both by tomorrow!  They look interesting and most importantly, FUN!!!

We do need to keep up with what’s new, and take risks to grow and expand and enlarge our territory for the Kingdom of God. But I don’t need to feel left behind simply because I’m not in the “inner circle” of the latest social networking opportunity.

I liked this conclusion from an article on the social networking fad: Social media networks, after all, are supposed to be social. They are created for connecting with people, but they can’t be the only evidence of those connections.

As Problogger writes, you’d be wise to not let Google Plus replace your blog or let Google control your destiny. Have your own home on the web where you are building your strong brand (your website/blog), and don’t pour all your life and soul into Google Plus, putting all your eggs in one basket (or Pinterest, or Facebook, or Twitter!). If you go against their terms of service, they can take all you’ve invested away.

Why not also have a live coffee meet and greet locally in your hometown? Make sure your napkins are printed with your website url or your latest coaching services/program, the coffee is outstanding, the snacks or food delicious, your presentation contains great value that helps to solve their problem or pain, and people feel welcome – even give them a hug!

That’s much better than an online social networking invite. But consider doing both offline and online social networking for your business’ success. Don’t let your networking and marketing get too top-heavy, one way or the other.

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Ready for God to do a new thing in 2012? Webinar on February 2

The Master’s Hands Webinar

Have you been at this same old place long enough?

Ready for God to do A NEW THING in your life in 2012?

It’s time to CROSS OVER TO THE OTHER SIDE!


With Rochelle Valasek and Beth Jones

Thursday, February 2, at 2:30 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. Central Time


God is the Potter and you are His clay. He desires to form you into His Beautiful Masterpiece, reflecting His image.

If you want to be used in a great way by God, but you’ve been feeling stuck and that something is holding you back from success, then join us for this exciting event. You are handmade for His glory.

And yet, O LORD, you are our Father.
We are the clay, and you are the potter.
We all are formed by your hand. ~ Isaiah 64:8, NLT

Session 1 – Rochelle Valasek, www.RochelleValasek.com

Handmade for His Glory

Do you feel unworthy of doing great things for God? Many of us have had something in our past, or even present, that makes us think we are not worth anything or can do anything in the name of God. This makes us stagnant when it comes to the great purpose and journey God has in store for us. BUT THE POTTER! He will reform and restore us!

Let’s take a look in God’s Word and see how God wants to do a NEW thing in your life! You are uniquely made by God. He wants to form and shape you into a beautiful pot and use you for His glory, beyond anything you can imagine.

Session 2 – Beth Jones, www.BethJones.net

Some For Honor

Have you ever watched a potter making something on the potter’s wheel and how patient he is creating the vessel? It’s a fascinating art and technique, with the pushing, pulling, inside and out.

The potter puts a lump of clay in the center of the wheel, and begins to work with it, until it’s formed into the masterpiece he desires. A skilled potter can detect the slightest defect, and when he finds one, he smashes the clay down and starts all over again so that it’s made properly. (Jeremiah 18:3)

No matter what you’ve done, God has a great plan of blessings and success for your life. Join Beth Jones as she shares with you how today can be God’s “do-over” in your life and He can recreate the pain of your past into something beautiful for His glory. God wants to make you into His vessel of honor.

Join Rochelle and Beth
and other women of God for this exciting webinar!

FAQ

When is the webinar and how long does it last?

The webinar is planned for Thursday, February 2.

It will be from 2:30 p.m. Central Time to 4 p.m. Central Time (3:30 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. EDT).

How much will this cost you?

There is no charge for this webinar except your time. It’s our gift to you!

Do you need to purchase anything extra for this webinar,
such as books or software programs?

You’ll get everything you need for the sessions including handouts and bonuses. If this is your first time attending a Christian Women Affiliate webinar, there’s a software download you’ll need to view the webinar. It’s easy and won’t hurt your computer; once you click on the webinar room link, just follow the prompts. You don’t need to buy anything to attend.

Will you get a reminder email before the webinar?

Yes, you’ll get reminder emails. You’ll also receive the link to the webinar room.

Will you be able to ask Rochelle and Beth questions
and chat with attendees during the webinar?

Yes, you’ll be able to chat with Rochelle, Beth, and the other women in the chat room during the webinar. You’ll love it and will have so much fun, making new friends and networking!

Will the webinar sessions be recorded with replays?

Yes, Rochelle’s and Beth’s webinar sessions will be recorded, and you will receive the replays within 48 hours as our complimentary gift to you for attending. More good news: You will receive a bonus if you attend the live event!

Ready to learn from God, each other, and have lots of fun?


Save your spot now! Click here to sign up for the webinar.

After you register, you will receive an email from Rochelle and Beth asking you to confirm your registration. Please confirm so that you’ll receive the important details about the webinar. We can’t wait to see you there!

Got questions? Email Rochelle at rochellev@rochellevalasek.com or Beth at elizabethdjones@gmail.com.

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Getting a little too personal

Getting a little personal?

This morning I was attending the Savvy Saved Women Entrepreneurs Virtual Summit, and a question was raised by an attendee in the chat box, “Can you get too personal when running an online business?” The attendee meant if we, as entrepreneurs, should separate our business from our personal lives, keeping personal things OUT of our business.

For some people, that answer would be yes. For me, it would be no. My business and my brand ARE me, Beth Jones. My business is simply one piece of the whole of this life that God has given me.  God is my priority, then  my family, then my business and all else. My personal life affects my business and vice versa.

My family is both affected by and involved in my business. Often when you see a video of me, the video person behind my smart phone recording it is our youngest daughter Leah. My husband Ray is my business sounding board, my wise counsel, and the money bags  financial backer/adviser of my business. Our oldest daughter Heather and my sister Maria are my greatest encouragers.

My blog is filled with stories about my family. In fact, I recently posted this cartoon on my Facebook fan page with this comment: “My family realizes by now that EVERYTHING is potential content for my blog!”

This is so true. My obsession with recording intimate moments of my family’s lives began when my father-in-law Charles gave Ray and me a dinosaur-sized video recorder when Leah was born, so we could send him videos on VHS tapes (he lives in another state and couldn’t visit that often).

We have literally HOURS of videos of Leah as a baby laying on the pink blanket, the brightly colored blanket, the soft white blanket, cooing, sucking her thumb, sleeping, and yes, even spitting up on Heather’s shoulder, lol.

In one video, you can even see Ray’s hairy underarm as he, shirtless, reached over to stroke Leah’s cheek. In another video, Heather turned the camera on me, with her following me around the house and I was the one, having a bad hair day and now annoyed and frowning, saying, “STOP it, Heather!” She was simply giving me payback.

Despite that video, I still didn’t learn that my family protested every mundane moment of their lives being recorded for all the world to gawk at.  Fast forward many years, when I began my business about a year ago and technology was changing at the speed of light. I could now record my family on my FLIP recorder and my smart phone at the push of one button – and use it as GREAT content for my business! Or at least I think it’s great. (I hope you like it, too!) At least by now, my family has learned to tolerate the obsessive picture-taking, video recording, and blog-writing about their lives.

My open-as-a-book friend Susan Evans commented on my Facebook picture, “I told my husband that if he wanted to know what was going on in our family, to read my blog!”  Exactly.

No, I won’t separate my personal life (i.e., my faith in Christ, my family, my friends, etc.) from my business, because they are such an important part of my life. God and they truly are the inspirational material for my writing, speaking, and coaching.

That doesn’t mean that I believe people should “air dirty laundry” (i.e., such as the arguments Ray and I have sometimes, like the one yesterday over who spends the most money – we can have some doozies because we’re both hard-headed and stubborn!).  But I do believe that people should be real and authentic, sharing themselves, who they and their families really are, as a part of their business.

Letting people into your personal life, getting a glimpse of you and those around you, is what builds the Know, Like, Trust (K, L, T)  factor. It makes you more real and more approachable to your readers.

Let them see you are a flesh-and-blood person, with real problems, real pain, and real struggles. That doesn’t mean to bombard your readers and listeners with all the gory details of your husband getting hurt at work from lifting a heavy patient or your car breaking down on the highway when you’re on your family dinner night.

After all if your life is just a big mess, why should they follow or listen to you to help them?  They need to see that you have something positive, encouraging, and helpful to offer them, that will solve their problems – and it’s important that you are walking the talk in your own life.

But let your personal life be a part of your business. People relate to personal.

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