Me and my BFF Maria
“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”– Elisabeth Foley
In my blog on spring, A Chance at Life Again, I shared about my first children’s book that I’m writing, which should be launched in mid-March or late March 2020. It is about my and our daughter Leah’s black cats, Natalya (Nat) and Jax. The theme is friendship.
Jax and Natalya
I’ve never been the type of person to have tons of friends. Usually, I have anywhere from two to 10 close friends, with whom there is a depth of relationship, instead of having a lot of friends, where the relationships are shallow and even superficial.
In high school, there were cliques. Depending on your looks, clothes, type of car you owned, class grades, your family’s economic status, and more ridiculous things, the cliques were:
Sometimes we meet people who are definitely not and will never be our friends. They simply rub us the wrong way, and/or vice versa.
The Bible says in Romans 12:18 NASB, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”
I believe this passage indicates that sometimes it is not possible. I think this is often due to personality types. They (or you!) are bossy, manipulative, narcissistic, controlling, rude, hateful, arrogant, or have something about them that just irritates or angers you. Sometimes people rub you the wrong way and/or vice versa. You know the type: people with an attitude who you feel like just slapping, but you control yourself!
woman shooting bird
I’ve experienced this in my own life, even recently. There was a woman at a part-time job where I worked for a season who, for whatever reason, seemed to not like me at all and would get easily angry at me. I tried my best to be nice to her, but she’d storm out of the office, offended over what seemed to be little, ridiculous things. Sad to say, we never got along. I no longer work there, and I’m so glad that I don’t have to deal with her any more!
Not everyone is going to like you or get along with you, or you with them. We can try our best to walk in God’s agape, unconditional love and forgive, but you and that person may never become friends.
Woman in jacket
However, sometimes it IS possible. My children’s book is about that hope. I’m praying to launch it soon.
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I’m personally so thankful for the friends I do have. Like my salvation through Christ and my family, I consider them a precious gift from God.
Me and my precious friend Shelley Valasek, at the fountains by Crowne Center, Kansas City, MO