I tell family and friends that God dragged me into public speaking.
As a child, I was painfully shy, reserved, and didn’t like any attention drawn to myself.
When my husband Ray first met me, I was extremely quiet, hardly talking at all. He jokes that those were the good ol’ days because now, if you give me half a chance, I won’t stop talking. Especially to Ray, every single day.
Speaking in front of people used to terrify me. In one required elective high school speech class, I thought I was going to faint speaking at the front of the class, while my classmates snickered. The teacher encouraged me to go on. I made it through the semester, loosening up a little more each time, and received an A+ final grade in the class.
Several years ago I was working as a volunteer counselor for the Harrisonville, MO Life Choice Center For Women, when then-director Wautheena Neely was asked to speak at a women’s Bible study at a church in town. She couldn’t do it and recommended for me to speak instead, sharing my testimony about my 3 abortions.
Once again, those feelings of fear and panic washed over me. When I shared my story in front of a group of about 30 women, I was physically shaking, sweating profusely, and my voice quivered.
After that, God began opening more doors for me to share my testimony- and I actually began enjoying it. NOW I LOVE IT!
Since then, I’ve traveled in Missouri and other states and internationally to speak in Canada, the Bahamas, and Kenya, Africa at women’s conferences. I’ve learned a few nuggets of wisdom along the way about speaking, and my passion is encouraging and empowering women to fulfill their great purpose and to dream big because we serve a big God!
Now it’s like a fire in my bones, and I can’t contain it!
Do you feel the same way? If you are a speaker who wants to share your story and the heart-burning message God has given you for His glory, then you’ll love this online event!
On December 16 at 2 p.m. Central Time (3 p.m. Eastern Time), I’m having a webinar, SIZZLE: 7 Tips to Expand Your Reach & Increase Your Profits.
Please join us. Seating is limited. You can find out more about the webinar by clicking here.
I am an International Speaker. Here are some of the inspiring people I follow and some excellent resources I use as a speaker, which may help you, too:
Sheila Wray Gregoire, Canadian author/speaker/blogger. Sheila has excellent, professional, and Biblically-based speakers’ training that I’ve taken and loved.
Rochelle Valasekaka “Shelley” is my precious friend and speaking coach. Shelley has been speaking professionally for over 15 years, and is one of the most anointed speakers I’ve ever heard. I’ve attended her webinars and she was one of the speakers for my Released women’s conference. She is an anointed woman of God with the Father’s huge heart of love. Her testimony is amazing and powerful. You’ll love her and learn so much from her!
Ibloom. Kelly Thorne Gore and her team’s mission is to inspire and empower women to live a life they love which honors God. With every webinar, telecall, and book of Ibloom’s, I learn something and come away refreshed and encouraged.
Join NACWE Now! * I was first drawn to NACWE’s CEO and founder Diane Cunningham on Facebook by her beautiful face and how she was so on fire for God and was all over the place, marketing and networking. She inspired me, and I wanted to learn to succeed like she was doing. For the last 2 years, I’ve received incredible business training through NACWE. I highly recommend you join this organization for Christian women with an online business to go to the next level in your biz.
Instant Teleseminar. I’ve tried LOTS of webinar programs online. None are perfect. Techie problems happen sometimes with all of them. So far, I’ve found Instant Teleseminar to be the best. You can use webinars and teleseminars for your online speaking.
Talkshoe. Talkshoe is a free platform you can use as a speaker to share your heart-burning messages or to invite guest speakers on the show with you as host. There’s a chat room for guests to ask you questions, comment, and connect with each other. Some speakers prefer Blog Talk Radio, but I think Talkshoe is less tech-challenging. I have 44 recorded episodes on a variety of topics, that you can listen to at no charge by clicking here.
WordPress. My first website made me cry a lot. It was totally stressful trying to add an article, blog, or picture to my site. Then I hired a professional WordPress website designer and I fell in love with WordPress! I LOVE it! I can’t say enough good things about WordPress (great for SEO, attracts Google robots and search engines, you can easily add pics, videos, and blogs, integrates with social media, saves money from hiring designer to make changes on your site)….and these things are why I only recommend WordPress to my coaching clients. Read what Michael Hyatt has to say about why you need a self-hosted WordPress site here.
Toastmasters. Some professional speakers are not fans of Toastmasters. I haven’t been to a meeting in awhile for various reasons. But I won a first place humorous speech award at Toastmasters, networked with wonderful speakers, and became much more self-aware in my presentations about NOT using filler words like “um,” “you know,” and “so” at Toastmasters. They offer great training.
Michael Port. Right now I’m watching his new video series, which is educational and entertaining. He’s a top-ranking speaker and best-selling author. His book, Book Yourself Solid, is excellent.
This is just a partial list of resources. I hope they encourage and help you. If you have any questions, email me at email@example.com.
If you’d like to book me as a speaker for your women’s conference or event, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can see clips of my videos and hear radio interviews of me by clicking here.
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This is part 8, and the conclusion, of my SOS: Starting Out Speaking for Beginner Speakers blog series. You can read Part 7 by clicking here.
Part 8: SOS Starting Out Speaking for Beginner Speakers (The Ending, or Your Conclusion)
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” ~ Lao Tzu
Just like you can’t ever make a first impression again, you can’t make a last impression again. How will the audience remember you? What aha’s will they take away from you speaking? What are you trying to COMMUNICATE?
You want to WOW the audience with your conclusion. I love what Ibloom Founder/Speaker/Author Kelly Thorne Gore writes in her book Empowering Coaches: The Christian Coach’s Guide to a Successful Business on page 45:
“Conclude by summarizing and giving your audience a clear next step to take. I heard a very well trained pastor give what he called the message of his life. He unfolded his talk, gave stories, kept us interested, and had great information. But when he was finished, he simply said, “If I could only give one message before I died, this is what it would be.” Then he walked off the stage. We were all left with interesting information but we didn’t know what to do with it. You must let your audience know what their next step is as a result of listening to you speak.”
You aren’t speaking up front just to show off your cute new outfit and shoes or your sharp blue suit. You want to connect with their hearts and minds and for them to learn a new idea, to buy your product or service, or for something to happen as a result of them listening to you – to take a next step, to take action.
It is a great disservice to the audience to leave them hanging and wondering what to do now, not giving them any action step(s). They will be confused, or at the very least, they’ll walk out thinking, “That was nice. He’s lived an interesting life. But what was the point of his speech? Hey, do you want to go eat some Chinese? I’m hungry.”
You want to impact your listeners with God’s Biblical truths, your experience(s), and creative ideas that will practically help, transform, and improve their lives. You show them how your message, your products, services, or other offering can do that.
For example, event planners should hire me for their women’s conference because I am a passionate, Biblically-grounded, and humorous speaker who loves to encourage women to use their gifts for God’s glory, doing what they love. When I speak, I share how one of my books, Walking With God, teaches people how to develop a daily quiet time with God in the midst of their busy, hectic schedules and to hear His voice to fulfill their great purpose in life.
Shine and be the inspiring example for them. Your message should be shared in such a passionate, intriguing way that people are compelled to move from the unsatisfying place where they are now to a new, exciting place where they want to be! Help them to get unstuck with intentional, positive choices and to accelerate forward with their lives.
Impart encouragement, hope, and joy. Speak God’s love and truth into their souls. And when you conclude your presentation, remind them of the key points (no more than 3 to 5 points usually, or they will forget and ask their girlfriend, “What was the 13th point again?) and re-emphasize your one BIG point. (Please, you do have a point, don’t you?) What are you wanting to say?
Maybe it’s that God is a merciful, loving God who forgives sins – no matter what they’ve done in the past.
Maybe it’s that Jesus still heals today.
Maybe it’s that God has a purpose for their life. (So many people don’t understand or believe this!)
Maybe it’s that there is still life after divorce – even joy and happiness.
Maybe it’s that God wants to prosper their business and bless them beyond what they think or can imagine.
Maybe it’s that they can become a life coach, even if they’re working in a job right now that’s a totally different field…and to just take that next step of faith.
Whatever your big point is, communicate it clearly and motivate them to take the next step.
And leave them with a feeling of “WOW.”
Then your conclusion will be just the beginning….of a relationship between you and her/him.
“Stories are like fairy gold, the more you give away, the more you have.” – Polly McGuire
Come To The Edge (Christopher Logue)
Come to the edge.
We might fall.
Come to the edge.
It’s too high!
COME TO THE EDGE!
And they came, and he pushed, and they flew.
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