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Born 2 Be Different book is now for sale at my website!

Born 2 Be Different

Born 2 Be Different

I’m so excited and honored to be a contributing author for LaToya Gay’s book, Born 2 Be Different.

14 women’s powerful stories of how they overcome the odds of the world to make a Kingdom impact. 7 women over 30 years old (paving the way).¬† 7 women under 30 years old (setting the record straight).

Stories in this book like: 

  • A woman who was almost molested twice by a family member between the ages of 11-12 years old?
  • A woman who hated men for several years because of the things that no young lady should experience at such a young age.
  • A woman who had affairs with married men, became pregnant out of wedlock 3 times by 3 different men, and had 3 abortions.
  • A woman who struggled with depression, anxiety, and lustful pleasures (pornography) for several years in secret.

 Maybe you have experienced a similar traumatic past and you are ready to let go and be healed ~ and be who God created you to be, a woman of influence and impact!

Our first book under our newest Born 2 Be Different series was written for young women like YOU! You are:

  • Born 2 Be Free
  • Born 2 Stand Out
  • Born 2 Love God
  • Born 2 Love Others
  • Born 2 Be Successful
  • and Born 2 Be Yourself!

You can get your autographed PRINT COPY today for just $9.99, plus $2.00 shipping.

(Please allow up to one week for delivery. )

To learn more, click here to visit my website store and scroll down until you see the book, Born 2 Be Different.

After you pay with Paypal, you should be directed back to my Thank You page here.

If you have any questions or problems, email me at

“God has made us what we are. He has created us in Christ Jesus to live lives filled with good works that He has prepared for us to do.” ~ Ephesians 2:10, God’s Word Translation



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Spraying your hair big to hide the white shoes

“How many times do we rely on the promises of God to take care of us one minute and then take matters into our own hands the next? Because we are unable to control things, we become insecure and open to Satan’s traps. God wants us to trust His goodness and concentrate on boldly doing good, for that is something we can control.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst, , p. 112, Who Holds the Key to Your Heart?

This is the new book I’m reading this week. Lysa is the President of Proverbs 31 Ministries and is an excellent writer and speaker. I found this section of the book particularly comforting and funny, because Lysa was being transparent about a mishap that happened to her once,¬†when she had¬†a speaking engagement in front of hundreds of women at a country club.

As she writes, “Although I feel very comfortable speaking, I’m not exactly a country club girl. Oh, I’ve got the country part down just fine; it’s the club part that intimidates me a bit.”

She spent extra time in her closet that morning trying to find just the right outfit and chose a light purple suit. That’s when her shoe dilemma started, and after trying on several pair, she chose a pair of bone-colored high heels. As she drove to the engagement, she realized that they were too small because her feet started to hurt. She decided to stop at the only place open at that time of the morning, Wal-Mart. She writes that she was¬†excited to find a pair of comfortable white heels on the clearance rack and bought them. Lysa writes:

Hair Spray

Hair Spray –

“Everything seemed great until I walked into the country club and noticed that not one other person was wearing white shoes. These were the kind of women who did not wear white shoes in the wrong season. I was so embarrassed. All I wanted to do was run away as fast as my little white shoes would carry me. But since running away was not an option, I decided to head to the bathroom and spray my hair really big. I figured if my hair was poofy enough, maybe no one would look at my shoes.”

“Then I discovered that this country club provided spray in the bathroom. What a wonderful surprise. So I flipped my head over and sprayed and sprayed. It wasn’t until I flipped my head back over that I realized the convenient spray was actually deodorant….Panic started to set in as I realized I had no time to fix this mess I was in. Thank goodness Jesus spoke to my heart and reminded me of Who was in control. So I brushed as much of the deodorant out of my hair as I could and walked out of the bathroom and up to the podium.”

This was so funny to me, especially since Lysa is the President of Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Her book Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions* about how she loses it sometimes with her husband, kids, or in other stressful situations personally deeply ministered to me! She’s not perfect, either!

Her humbling yet funny story above about her speaking engagement reminds me of my speaker friend Rochelle Valasek, who fell off a stage once while speaking.

Luckily just her pride was hurt. She reacted with quick wit, jumping back onto the stage, saying, “TA DA!” (Just as an aside, Shelley is one of the most anointed, amazing speakers I’ve ever heard!)

Lysa’s story about her speaking engagement¬†also reminds me of the time I went to an event where everyone on the ministry team was wearing solid, black suits and I showed up in a black and white, checkered dress. Talk about standing out!

When these things happen, we feel like quickly disappearing. We feel insecure.

We feel out of control. And control is so important to us, isn’t it? At least it is for me.

Then we try to wrestle for control in the situation ~ like spraying your hair big to hide the white shoes.

Or we try to hide.

Instead, we need to let go and trust God.

As a child, I had no control over what was happening to me when I was being sexually and physically abused. I’m thankful that although I had no control, God was still in control. He spared my life physically and kept my sanity intact.

Then He did what only God could do ~ He healed and restored me. He turned this situation around 180 degrees for His glory.

Like Joseph who was sold into slavery by his brothers, falsely accused of wrong-doing, put into prison, and then raised up by Pharoah to be second in command in Egypt, God is creating a masterpiece out of my messes.

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” – Genesis 50:20, NIV

God has used my story of abuse to minister to many women who have been through the same painful things in their lives. He truly has given me beauty for ashes. (Isaiah 61:3)

Sometimes when we feel totally out of control, God is right there in the thick of it, about to show off Jesus in and through imperfect, stand-out, falling-down you.


Don’t miss the webcast with Lysa and Women of Faith speakers June 25, 2013, at 8 p.m. Central Time/ 9 p.m. Eastern Time, when they share a message on how to overcome feelings of rejection, insecurity, and fear to embrace a deeper understanding of our significance in Christ. You can sign up for this free webcast by clicking here.

*This is an affiliate link. I only recommend products or services I’ve personally used or highly recommend.

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No limits or labels in Christ



I’ve been praying for the families of those killed and hurt in the Boston Marathon¬†tragedy. It’s scary and so horrible. Our daughter Heather is a runner and runs 5k’s. She has some planned for this year. I urged her this week that we should always pray about where we are going and what we will do each day, so we will be under God’s sheltering wings of protection (Psalm 91).

Heather said she knows. She also said she will not stop running. This is true for us as believers, too. We need to press on until we finish the race and reach the high prize of Jesus Christ. (Philippians 3:14)

Runners inspire me. So do NIKE running commercial videos. This week I found a new one at YouTube, which inspired me for our RELEASED! Women’s Conference. We are getting closer to the date, and seats are filling up fast. Four more women registered this week. To secure your seat NOW, click here.

You can also register online at Event Brite, which gives you more payment options (Paypal, credit/debit card, invoice by email, check or cash at the door). To secure your seat using Event Brite, click here.

In the NIKE commercial, these lines at the end of the video inspired me:¬† “Tonight I defy the ticking clock and the limits you’ve put on me.”

You can view this very unique video by clicking on the link below:

Click here to see NIKE commercial.

What limits have others have put on you?

What limits have you put on yourself?

As a child, I was sexually and physically abused. Abuse shames children, fills them with condemnation. It causes them to feel unworthy of anything good.

God has done an amazing work of healing in me. The closer I grow to Him, the more I realize that He created me for a wonderful, Divine purpose to glorify Him.

The greatest gifts God has ever given me other than my salvation are my beautiful, precious children and grandchildren, and my most precious, sacred calling is that of being a mother. I believe in my heart that there can be no higher calling than this.

God has also given me other gifts, a unique purpose from Him. I have begun to walk more deeply in that purpose the last several years, speaking, writing, and coaching.

The abuse I went through as a child was Satan’s attempt to rob me of my purpose and to cause me to think that I was unworthy of love and of God’s good things. That my life was limited.

In and of myself, I’m not worthy of receiving anything good¬† from God, but through a relationship with Him I am deserving of all His unfathomable, eternal riches. I am a co-heir with Christ.¬†Everything good¬†that belongs to Jesus belongs to me! ALL GOOD THINGS COME FROM GOD! (Romans 8:17; Galatians 4:7; James 1:17)

In God there are no limits. Nothing is impossible with Him.

If someone has tried to put limits on you as a child or through adulthood, you don’t have to receive that. Or maybe you have put those limits on yourself.

You don’t have to be held back by those limits now.

You don’t have to wear that label anymore. Rip it off.

You are a new creation in Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

This is the year for new things. God has great things for you ahead.

“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” – Isaiah 43:19, NIV



Believe and just see what God will do!


Don’t wait! Don’t make excuses! Believe for a money miracle!

Group discounts available. If you want to come and can’t afford the $50, email me at and we can work something out. I don’t want any woman not coming because of money.

Register for the RELEASED! Women’s Conference now!

To secure your seat NOW, click here.

Register online at Event Brite, which gives you more payment options (Paypal, credit/debit card, invoice by email, check or cash at the door). To secure your seat using Event Brite, click here.