Are you an aspiring author or speaker? Do you love to write and speak?
I’m so excited to announce that I’m having a FREE Zoom webinar, the Writers & Speakers Dream Cafe, on Thursday, February 18, 2021, at 2:00 p.m. Central Time/3:00 p.m. Eastern Time.
Have you been saying for years that you want to write a book and/or speak?
On this webinar, you’ll be encouraged and motivated to write your book and/or to step out to speak this year. It is time to share your story and your heart-burning messages!
I’ll also be sharing with you about my brand-new, writers and speakers virtual training on this webinar, and answer your questions about writing and speaking.
Below is the Zoom info you need to come to this free webinar. Bring your fave hot or cold drink, your questions, and a friend – and share about it with others! I can’t wait to see you there! The passcode is useme
Beth Jones is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.
Topic: Writers and Speakers Dreaming Cafe
Time: Feb 18, 2021 02:00 PM Central Time (US and Canada)
Meeting ID: 726 4539 0540
I can’t wait to see you there! Please share about this with your family, friends, and biz peers!
“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”– Elisabeth Foley
In my blog on spring, A Chance at Life Again, I shared about my first children’s book that I’m writing, which should be launched in mid-March or late March 2020. It is about my and our daughter Leah’s black cats, Natalya (Nat) and Jax. The theme is friendship.
I’ve never been the type of person to have tons of friends. Usually, I have anywhere from two to 10 close friends, with whom there is a depth of relationship, instead of having a lot of friends, where the relationships are shallow and even superficial.
In high school, there were cliques. Depending on your looks, clothes, type of car you owned, class grades, your family’s economic status, and more ridiculous things, the cliques were:
- the “popular” group (usually rich, good-looking people who everyone wanted to be friends with);
- nerds (intelligent students in the accelerated learning classes, and sometimes the popular kids were in this group, too);
- jocks (students who played football or basketball, wrestled, were on the gymnastics team, and/or who participated in other sports and were good at them–they were often in the popular clique, too);
- druggies (kids who usually smoked cigarettes and/or pot, drank alcohol, and/or took other drugs. Some of the popular kids indulged in drinking and drugs, and would have parties);
- others who didn’t fit into any of the above cliques. Painfully shy and socially awkward, I was in this group, often eating my lunch alone. It was a difficult, lonely time. As I matured and grew older, I learned better social skills and began developing close friendships. Today my friends are a vital part of my life, and I love them so much! You know who you are!
I believe that Jesus’ ministry time here on earth exemplifies the types of relationships we can have with others:
- The crowds of people whom Jesus taught. This would be similar to your and my Facebook “friends,” who are really more acquaintances (or even strangers we don’t know), our social media “peeps,” audiences where we speak, readers of our books and our blogs, etc.
- Jesus’ disciples. These included men and women who followed Him more closely. These would be friends who we start to spend more fun time with, such as having over for dinner at our houses, doing a Bible study with at church or in our homes, etc.
- Jesus’ 12 disciples. Your friends who you begin to confide in, asking prayer requests from (I have a team of intercessors who pray for me and my family), hang out with for a bbq and a movie at your house, people who are aware of the more personal details of your lives, whom you can really trust. Jesus chose these 12 men after all night in prayer, so they would spend time with Him, to preach, and to cast out demons. They would later spread the gospel throughout the world. These would be like my friends Liz, Ruth, Gala, Susan, Jane, Stephanie, and Dana.
- The inner circle of 3, Peter, James, and John. They are always listed first in the Biblical record whenever the apostles are listed by name. Peter along with his brother Andrew, along with James and his brother John, were the first set of disciples called by Jesus to follow Him. These three were the only disciples to witness the raising of Jairus’ daughter from the dead (Mark 5:37-42; Luke 8:50-55); Christ’s Transfiguration on the Mount (Matthew 17:1-2); and Jesus travailing in prayer at the Garden of Gethsemane, before He was crucified (Matthew 26:36-39; Mark 14:32-36). Jeff Atchinson said, “the Perfect Leader, Jesus, showed us the importance of narrowing in on a smaller circle for the highest degree of intimate training.” These would be like your best friends, who you’d trust with your very life. You know they are loyal and they always have your back! These are usually people who, even if you go separate ways (such as moving), you can always pick right back up where you were the last time you saw each other, such as my friends Shelley Valasek and Kim Weber.
- John who lay on Jesus’ breast, hearing His heartbeat. This is your very best friend. For me, that would be my daughters and my sister Maria. These are the ones I laugh with and cry with. They really know me–and love me anyway! My sister and I talk about everything, and we understand each other so well (we both have the same kind of warped humor!).
Sometimes we meet people who are definitely not and will never be our friends. They simply rub us the wrong way, and/or vice versa.
The Bible says in Romans 12:18 NASB, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.”
I believe this passage indicates that sometimes it is not possible. I think this is often due to personality types. They (or you!) are bossy, manipulative, narcissistic, controlling, rude, hateful, arrogant, or have something about them that just irritates or angers you. Sometimes people rub you the wrong way and/or vice versa. You know the type: people with an attitude who you feel like just slapping, but you control yourself!
I’ve experienced this in my own life, even recently. There was a woman at a part-time job where I worked for a season who, for whatever reason, seemed to not like me at all and would get easily angry at me. I tried my best to be nice to her, but she’d storm out of the office, offended over what seemed to be little, ridiculous things. Sad to say, we never got along. I no longer work there, and I’m so glad that I don’t have to deal with her any more!
Not everyone is going to like you or get along with you, or you with them. We can try our best to walk in God’s agape, unconditional love and forgive, but you and that person may never become friends.
However, sometimes it IS possible. My children’s book is about that hope. I’m praying to launch it soon.
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I’m personally so thankful for the friends I do have. Like my salvation through Christ and my family, I consider them a precious gift from God.