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The value of your sistahs

 Me and my sister Maria last year in Florida

Many friends come and go, and there is no friend closer than Jesus. Among our human friends, though, some of the closest ones we can have are our husbands, our children, and our family members. One of my very best friends is my sister Maria.

There is five years’ difference between Maria and me.  When we were younger, we fought like cats over Barbie dolls and Baby Tender dolls. As the years passed, our jealous, selfish rivalries ceased and we grew closer in heart and mind. I moved to the midwest and the phone became our lifeline to each other, sometimes literally for both of us in very dark times when we just needed someone to tell us, “You are loved! You matter! Don’t give up!”

Throughout my adult years, I have written Maria literally hundreds of letters – some of them very long. Yes, the lost art of letter writing instead of emails, IMs, and texting.  When I say long, I mean ten to 25 pages long, some hand-written, some typed! Some include my famous “stick cartoons,” depicting stressful events in my life that I would cope with by drawing exaggerated, funny stick cartoons of me, my family, and others. Maria, “bless her heart” as they say in the south, has loyally read every single one of these letters – and laughed a lot over the cartoons with me.

Maria doesn’t write letters.  If I am lucky, I get one a year from her. When it comes, it’s a total shock and I prize it like Belgian fine chocolate. I’ve begged her for years to write me, but she doesn’t have time. (She actually has a life!) But she does call. A lot. A whole lot!  I write, she phones. We are borderline co-dependent on each other.  We talk, we cry, we laugh, we pray for each other. 

We don’t always have an answer for each other.We’ve watched as each other has gone through troubled relationships, career transitions, fnancial crises, problems with rebellious kids, identity crises, church transitions, radical hair color and haircut changes, weight gain, and inevitable aging – as well as incredible joys and happiness, achievements of lifelong goals, and great successes. We are always there to cheer each other on to the finish line – and to confront and challenge each other, “What are you doing? Knock it off!”

We don’t always agree with each other. We even get on each other’s nerves sometimes. But we tell each other the truth. We see the best in each other. We believe in each other. We’d fight to the death for each other.  And only my sister can really get my warped sense of humor!

We are sisters. But best of all, we are friends.  And not just here – but for all of eternity.

My sister Maria. I love her – and I don’t know what I’d do without her!

Do you have such a sister and friend? Who are your best sistahs?   Tell them today that you love them and what a difference they make in your life! Some of the best sistahs and friends I’ve met are online!

***Quotes on sisters from

“You can kid the world, but not your sister.” ~ Charlotte Gray

“A sister is a forever friend.” ~ Author unknown 

“How do people make it through life without a sister?” ~ Linda Corpening

“It was nice growing up with someone like you – someone to lean on, someone to count on… someone to tell on!” ~Author Unknown

“Sister to sister we’ll always be, A couple of nutts off the family tree.” ~ Author unknown

My sister taught me everything that I needed to know, and she was only in sixth grade at the time.” ~ Linda Sunshine

“In the cookies of life, sisters are the chocolate chips.” ~ Author unknown



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  • Reply Tina Bonifacio September 21, 2010 at 4:59 pm

    Know what you mean! Here’s to my two biological sisters: Misty, who’s with Jesus already; and Julie, who’s here walking this earthly journey with me… and, so many other sistahs who are “Jesus-Kin” (as we say in the south). Thanks so much, Beth, for writing this.

    • Reply Beth Jones September 23, 2010 at 3:09 pm

      Hi Tina, thanks for commenting. I am sorry about your sister, Misty. {{{Hugs}}} I am so glad you have Julie and your other “Jesus-kin” sistahs. 🙂 Sure makes life better, doesn’t it? 🙂

  • Reply Amy Herrin September 16, 2010 at 6:21 pm

    Hi Beth! I work with Maria. She is a new blessing in my life. We have bonded as families with that “warped” sense of humor and common life trials. I often think, “Where was she when I needed her most.” She has even shared your book with me. She seems to always have the knack of knowing when I need a little lift. It’s wonderful to see you express the love you each share. So wonderfully expressed that it brings tears to my eyes. Everyone needs to have that love whether it be from family or a friend. Those that don’t have it are missing out on a true miracle of love. Just as Jesus loves us. Thanks for sharing your love for your sister with us. I hope to meet you one day!

    • Reply Beth Jones September 21, 2010 at 7:39 am

      Amy, thanks for commenting! Yes Maria is such a blessing! I’m so glad yall are friends…and really glad she shared my book with you, lol. 🙂 I’d really like to meet you, too. I hope to visit her sometime this year (I’m praying!)! No, some people don’t have that kind of love and friendship so I am very grateful to God for it. But even when people don’t have that love, Jesus is always there! “And I will sow her for Myself anew in the land, and I will have love, pity, and mercy for her who had not obtained love, pity, and mercy; and I will say to those who were not My people, You are My people, and they shall say, You are my God!” Hosea 2: 23

  • Reply Maria Willis September 15, 2010 at 4:09 pm

    Yes, the sister has to respond to such a blatant blessing! Beth is my bestest best friend here on earth. She is not only my best friend and sister but a spiritual mom to me also. I have never met anyone who is so totally devoted to Jesus, living to please Him, and always, always encouraging others to do it God’s way. I am SO thankful that God put us together! And I’m thankful He gave us that warped sense of humor to lift each other up and give us laughs in the toughest of times. Hug your “sistah” today and say a little prayer thanking God for them and for them to be blessed like they have blessed you! I love you, Beth! {{Hugs}}

    • Reply Beth Jones September 15, 2010 at 4:46 pm

      Thanks, Maria! 😀 Love you, too!

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  • Reply Laurie Neumann September 15, 2010 at 2:50 pm

    Wow, you and your sister look alike! It’s so nice that you are so close. That’s a real blessing.

    • Reply Beth Jones September 15, 2010 at 4:43 pm

      Yes, Laurie, it is a blessing. It’s just too bad she lives in Georgia and I live in Missouri – we don’t see each other nearly enough! 🙂

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